"Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others."
"When you walk into those situations that have a lot of conflict in them, the first thing to do is to be present enough to allow the other person to speak first. You're not giving power away; you're actually allowing them to feel seen and understood."
"Narcissist: psychoanalytic term for the person who loves himself more than his analyst; considered to be the manifestation of a dire mental disease whose successful treatment depends on the patient learning to love the analyst more and himself less."
"One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often."
"Being gritty doesn't mean not showing pain or pretending everything is O.K. In fact, when you look at healthy and successful and giving people, they are extraordinarily meta-cognitive. They're able to say things like, 'Dude, I totally lost my temper this morning.' That ability to reflect on yourself is signature to grit."
"When, instead of merely associating some act with some situation in the animal way, we think the situation out, we have a set of particular feelings of its elements."
"A wise unselfishness is not a surrender of yourself to the wishes of anyone, but only to the best discoverable course of action."
"One of the most important aspects of an athlete's financial life is that he needs to be personally responsible for his own finances."
"I know a lot of CEOs who are looking for three- to four-year varsity athletes - not necessarily because these people are going to be doing pushups or spiking volleyballs in the workplace, but because they're looking for that continuity, that person who was gritty about something."
"We're passing on something of ourselves to others. I feel that's what makes our life full of meaning. It's hard to have meaning in a closet, encapsulated by nothing. I think you really have to expand yourself and your life and do what you can for other people."
"There are times when external circumstances can overwhelm us, and we do things we never thought. If you're not aware that this can happen, you can be seduced by evil. We need inoculations against our own potential for evil. We have to acknowledge it. Then we can change it."
"I would like to thank those who spoke boldly against the 'gay marriage float' in the 2014 Rose Parade. Apparently, that vigorous opposition came from perhaps millions of people, and it had a significant influence on how the matter was handled on network and cable television."
"Being an only child is a disease in itself."
"For a young person, it is almost a sin, or at least a danger, to be too preoccupied with himself; but for the ageing person, it is a duty and a necessity to devote serious attention to himself."
"Being human always points, and is directed, to something or someone, other than oneself - be it a meaning to fulfill or another human being to encounter."
"The distinguishing characteristics of mind are of a subjective sort; we know them only from the contents of our own consciousness."
"Once you've taken account of the quality of sibling relationships, knowing about the quality of parenting doesn't add much information."
"When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate."
"When we depress, we believe we are the victims of a feeling over which we have no control."
"Don't marry someone you would not be friends with if there was no sex between you."
"The accumulation and cross-generational transmission of wealth in the United States has gone way too far. When a young hedge-fund manager can take home a sum reminiscent of the gross national product of a small country, something is askew."
"I think the questions on the grit scale about not letting setbacks disappoint you, finishing what you begin, doing things with focus, I think that those are things I would aspire to or hope for for all our children."
"When a mother quarrels with a daughter, she has a double dose of unhappiness hers from the conflict, and empathy with her daughter's from the conflict with her. Throughout her life a mother retains this special need to maintain a good relationship with her daughter."
"There's a tendency to look at investments in isolation. Investors focus on the risk of individual securities."
"The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short."
